Well, he called. He's still hasn't been to a meeting (but he thinks about it all the time), he's still drinking (but he thinks about that all the time too). Does he think that "thinking" about it is enough? It was hard but I told him that until he has starting going to meetings and is sober for a week that I didn't want him to call or come over. Then, as a true testament to how weak he thought I was, he goes "wow". Apparently he didn't think I was going to follow through.

D: So you want to cut me off?

me: No, I don't want to cut you off, I want you to get help, we all do, I love you

D: I know you do.....do you really think cutting me off is the right answer?

me: I want you to know I'm serious, and I am. I don't want to give you the impression that I
think your behavior is ok, because it's not

D: so you think it's that serious?

me: yes I do

D: so total sobriety is what you're going for?

me: yep

D: Well I don't think that cutting me off is the right way to go about it but you gotta do what you gotta do


D: well, thanks for your love and concern

me: you're welcome

D: have a good night

me: bye

Fast forward one and a half hours...phone rings, it's dad, didn't answer, he leaves a message

D: (clearly had been drinking) don't give up on me, if you'll go to a meeting with me I'd greatly appreciate it

He also called my sister about going to a meeting with him and made some comment about "when it gets to that point, I'll let you know" like he's just checking to see if we'll go with him but he's not going yet. She said "c'mon, let's just go, you don't have to say anything if you don't want, it's not a big deal, let's just go" Apparently he's checking to paper to see when there's a meeting. I'm calling him back tomorrow before he's been drinking again to see if the meeting just sounded like a good idea when he was drunk or if he's serious. If he's serious I'll be making my first appearance at AA.